Monday, July 4, 2011

A scary truth ...


The mobile rang the third time, Arsa was in a very important meeting, she could not ignore the call, and she excused herself and took the call. The call was from her 3 year young daughter, she just kept saying Amma (mother-in-law) is not opening her eyes. ..Arsa was worried.  She could not concentrate on the meet, she requested her MD via sms that it’s an emergency and she had to leave.
When Arsa reached home her mother in law was lying on the bed cold, her daughter Isha was crying...
Arsa was a widow, her husband passed away in an accident, she was eight month pregnant then, Arsa was brave she had all the courage to take care of her baby and stayed with her mother-in-law (Amma), Her Amma was the only support, while Arsa was in work, she used to take care of Isha.... being a single mother was indeed difficult. Even before the cremation ceremony, Arsa’s boss called her up and said she is fired, cos’ she left midst an important meeting...
There are so many women like Arsa who are single mother, career conscious trying to balance family and work, some succeed some are still struggling.  I met Arsa in one of my friend's engagement , that’s how I came to know  about her, I just kept wondering why we don’t have an answer for all this, many even suggested her to get married, but is that a solution? Arsa did want to get married, and why should she ...'just for the sake of  financial support compromise with another man, isn’t that unfair?

I kept wondering all the way back home, how will she take care of her daughter Isha? How will she mange to live? How ...How...there were too many questions???

Is it that a woman if a mother will not get opportunities like other young girls or women to make her career?  Does life end after being a mother? Does she have to compromise with her dreams? My heart is still heavy I really don’t know how I can help her; I wish God lands in her house and fill it with riches, so that it will be enough for all her life.
I might really sound kiddish...but that’s all I can hope for Arsa!
Do you have a solution for such women in our society? Where will they go...How will they survive?...
A scary truth which no one wants to accept, the society ignores... but persist! 
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14 comments:

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  2. My heart goes out for Arsa. Her only support..her Amma too is no more..and over that destiny plays a cruel joke with her.. she is fired from her job too..Her situation personal as well as financial is at the worst..But She has to be brave and face the situation..I have noticed..during such sad instances,God does give us a Strength and I am Sure Arsa will regain her posture and face the sad moments of her life with great Determination for her daughter's sake.
    She Must support herself by taking up another job.. I am sure She WILL ..
    I am sure Arsa will derive the ability and strength of mind to survive in this world
    SUre She will..
    My Prayers and Best Wishes for ARSA..

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  3. Very well written,
    Its really gr8 that she was managing family nd work together. it really needs too much courage to live life with so many problems.
    She can always go setting her life single on her own. But its not easy. Lifetime is far pretty more.
    BTW who said, if she marries then her husband will wont let her do a job ? just becoz some men yu saw who wont let do job to his wife, doesnt mean that all elses r same. she must be crystal clear before marrying.
    Women who have dare, are at very high place, i couldnt name one coz der r so many.
    she should took a chance to marry i guess. i am not saying she cant do on alone but with that her dreams will be more easy than fighting alone.
    GOD BLESS HER...!
    Regards,
    AMOL

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  4. Thanx Bindu...
    God bless Arsa...

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  5. Thanx forr the suggestion and and valuable comment @amol, even I want her to get married but she loved n still loves her husband...maybe she is a one man women, some don't think like we do ...

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  6. A human or a society that cannot understand and care for widows.. will stand condemned... For such things to happen in our country, where the stark reality of suffering is all over, one must have a heart of stone.

    I must write about this little girl who comes to chennai from a small town looking for a job, with the dream of writing her civil services .. and how she had to endure suffering and shame. But eventually she found favour in the eyes of a lawyer who actually took care of her and got her empolyment in a good place. There are surely good people around... may their tribe increase is my prayer

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  7. A stark reality of these days. My mother, also a widow since my childhood, suffered a lot because of many factors. Thankfully (now after reading this situation, have to say thankfully only) she wasn't a working woman back then.

    But out corporate structure and working culture (Especially Indian companies) is very bad when it comes to employees. This is very sad, considering the fact that we Indians are the only ones who have families and extended families to take care of. But corporate people throw such tantrums in name of so called "corporate" culture.

    I can understand the dilemmas Arsa would have gone through. It's very bold of her to decide to be a single mother and still think of career. In fact, being a single mother a woman has to to think of a career to survive.

    I would suggest her to get into field of "Freelance Consulting" if she has enough experience at her disposal and good contacts. That will give her some flexibility towards her life and career and would be able to manage properly.

    All the best to Arsa :)

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  8. Being practical I would advise her not to leave her courage. And as far as read from the article, she is so young and it would be better that if she could a good partner to share her worries and happiness. Being in our society otherwise a young girl like her will have to fight so hard to live just with no one's support.

    If she has a chance, as far as the justice is in her part, she should try to clarify the situation to her boss. Even I had the same experience when I was working in a firm. They were about to throw me up. But I didn't give up, I went to them and let them knew the situation. Then they asked me sorry. So there is still chance for her.most of all she should always keep her willpower high that nothing can make her down..

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  9. What she has done in response to phone from 3 yr child is perfectly justified. Even if she was fired by her employer,she is expected to represent with facts to MD subsequently.

    No MD worth the position, will ever refuse meeting and resolving the matter humanly.

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  10. u must write abut that girl @Benedict G

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  11. ur mother is indeed a brave lady...I salute her, and appreciate your suggestions @prasad (today's Birthday Boy :)

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  12. @Jicks very true...she must try

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  13. I second what u say :0 @R S Chauhan

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  14. i completely agree "a scray truth"a reality in today's world !! n women suffers n men feel women ka income to extra income hai na>!! they forgot they have mothers, sisters too n become insensitive why? because u r jealous that she is managing both with dignity OR u dnt want it because at home u r ruled by a lady so u dnt want a lady again at office OR its just that if u cant manage ur career , sit at home. is it??

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