Happily married….and ???

 “Marriages are made in heaven.”

I always kept dreaming, “A handsome prince will drive me through a luxurious life.” This is what every girl thinks and the same was with Henna. Henna was from a middle class family (Delhi based), happy and excited about the smallest thing in life, life was a roller coaster ride for her , average in studies , a very good painter, her paintings used to always the resemble the person she was.

She made lot of friends, they all used to love and care for her, who will not love a person who is full of talent and fun to be with.

Her mother was a housewife, Father a government servant, brother an MBA. As usual her parents were worried about her future, the worrying starts since the day a girl  is born, when henna was 19 she started getting marriage proposals , and she was desperately waiting for prince charming , finally one proposal clicked, it was a rich family (from Marwar) ,Akshar – the boy was very handsome, it was love at first sight for Henna, she was madly in love with Akshar, they were engaged and the marriage was supposed to take place 3 months after engagement… All this was a dream come true for Henna.

Henna’s father was tensed, as he did not have enough source to arrange finance for her wedding. Cos' there were more demands than expected , Finally he decided to sell his only property his house…He did not mention about it at home. He requested the new owner of the property to let him stay on rent for four months.

The Marriage Day-
Friends, Relatives …everyone attended the wedding, it was a lavish celebration, a day to remember, Henna was in seventh heaven! She just couldn’t take her eyes off akshar.

The First Night-
WOW! This night is full of hopes, excitement and ‘of course n everlasting wish in life.
However it was not the case with henna, as she entered the room, she was the bed was decorated with roses and there was a young lady waiting for her in the room….Whos’ She? This was the first thing which came into mind….
Let’s cut the story short …'m mean you have to suggest the rest :)

What do you think, who’s that young lady??
Sister –in-law, First Wife, Girlfriend, Secretary, Vamp …that’s what you and me are thinking – We all are influenced by T.V. serials, not only in reel life but also in real life , we are implementing the same thoughts, may what the situation or circumstances are.

We have forgotten and lost the charm of first love, sacred marriage, union of two hearts, this all are mere poetic words for us. Marriages are made in heaven; often this has been written and spoken. But how many people really understand what it means?

Today, Marriage is like a short term business plan; definition of marriage has depreciated and reduced to a mere contract for legalized union of bodies, an arrangement for legally satisfying our lust and not our dream. There is no dream partner or dream life with the partner anymore. Two people fall in love, get married and realize that they have committed a big mistake in life.

Divorce is increasing among young newly wedded couples. Relationship between two people moves faster than light…

It is not the “HE” or “SHE” to be blame; both are equally responsible and influenced.

Let’s put an effort to nurture a relationship, which will be long and everlasting. Make an attempt to try and prevent this degradation of definition of marriage and use marriage as a relationship for evolution of universal love, rather , than as a short term relationship tool to fulfill our thirst for lust. I am sure there would be no divorces, no more unhappily married couple, and no marital affairs – when we start seeing our partner (husband /wives) in a larger role.

We all want a happy ending…somewhere we all want to see henna happy, it is your pure and beautiful thought about a relationship which will complete this story.

Married and lived happily everafter!

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Empower the “SHE”

Power India – Empower the “SHE”

Did You Know?
More than 300 million people in India live in absolute poverty-a number equal to all the people living in the US. The majority of these people are rural and female. Girls are a critically vulnerable group and a keystone of development in the country. More than half the girls in India marry before the age of 18. Younger, the bride the greater her chance – of being trapped in poverty and becoming malnourished, anemic and at risk for maternal mortality. More than 51% of women in India have no say in decisions about their own health. 65% of the school-aged children who are not enrolled in school are girls.

In some states of India women are still like the domesticated pets caged in the house. Females receive less health care than males. Many women die in childbirth of easily prevented complications. Working conditions and environmental pollution further impairs women’s health. In recent years, there has been an alarming rise in atrocities against women in India, in terms of rapes, assaults and dowry-related murders. Fear of violence suppresses the aspirations of all women. Female infanticide and sex-selective abortions are additional forms of violence that reflect the devaluing of females in Indian society. While women are guaranteed equality under the constitution, legal protection has little effect in the face of prevailing patriarchal traditions. Women lack power to decide who they will marry, and are often married off as children. Legal loopholes are used to deny women inheritance rights.

India has a long history of activism for women’s welfare and rights, which has increasingly focused on women’s economic rights. A range of government programs , social workers, activists have schemes and slogans for the security of women have been launched , although there appear to be no existing programs to address the cultural and traditional discrimination against women that leads to her abject conditions.
We should take the responsibility individually to enhance girls’ capability to demand and secure better services in such areas as health, education and family infrastructure. Increasing solidarity among women and girls forming a unified voice and support for the changes they seek to implement in their families and communities. Create awareness about key health, education and financial practices. Build confidence to influence family decisions and the community.

When this happens, then and only then powerful India will emerge.
-Anupama Shetty

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Most Unwanted!

Forgotten Age – Most Unwanted!

Twinkle in the eye, but darkness in existence; the Indian girl child –

One day I was cleaning my desk, when my niece who is six years old came next to me and said “Masi , ‘m I unwanted , It seems that parents don’t like a girl child. My birth must be troubling everyone in the family.” I looked at her shocked. Honey! who the hell told you this? And she started crying? It was not important who told her, but the fact that still people live and believe this fact is a shame.

The Indian girl child is outlined by our country’s traditions. Discrimination of gender equality, female infants dumped in trash, unborn fetuses sniffed in the womb, all this continues in the society .There is no end to this cruel ritual practices . Our society has dealt the girl child a rough hand, starting even before birth, till the end of life.
The number of sexual abuse and domestic violence cases against women clearly throws light on the fact that girl child in India do not enjoy even basic rights; their health and education. They are deprived of their own lives. The cost of this neglect is high, both for the girl child and for society.

Let’s get aware and rather make an attempt to envision a society that is sensitive, aware and free from prejudice that affects the girl child.Grab any opportunity of decision-making for the advancement of the girl child.

I'm the first one to to take a step ahead...what about you?
-Anupama Shetty 

The most Best Comment , which I cudn' miss to mention
Soham writes----

When I read what anu wrote, it was shocking! I started collecting thoughts, to pen down an article/blogpost to strengthen anu’s thought- or may be INDIAs thought! Mind ran faraway searching for similar instances, and I broke down ashamed of our societal morals and the way we neglect NATURE and its rule. Moment after that, I thought of cementing these cracks with a positive story, which I witnessed. I know a family (Name doesn’t matter), who had a girl child, later when they tried for a boy (now, this is weird), the lady was pregnant with twin babies…both girls (This happened several years back, when sex determination was not illegal). Lady and her husband took a little time to digest this! But, husband stood up accepting twin girls with a proud smile on his face. Entire family danced in joy to welcome TWIN STARS! Now, they are awesome family together! WHO DOESN’T WANT A GIRL CHILD NOW?


Thank you Soham :)


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